A Parent’s Panic
I recently shared a story about losing my son in the mall when he was very young.
It wasn’t funny at the time, but thankfully, we can laugh about it now. The feedback I received was fascinating—I heard several stories from other parents about losing their child or a child being lost. While most of these stories were shared in a lighthearted way, there was a common thread that stood out: the lifetime trauma tied to the experience.
For many parents, the fear and helplessness in those moments leave a lasting impression. It’s a level of anxiety that often stays with you, influencing future decisions and habits. Some parents mentioned how these experiences drove them to adopt tools like the 360 app, underscoring the deep desire to ensure such a terrifying moment never happens again. It's a reminder of how even brief incidents can leave an emotional mark that shapes our actions and perspectives long after the event.
To work toward better internal resolve over this fear, there are practical steps and tools that can help:
Mindful Reflection: Journaling your thoughts and feelings about the incident can help process and release pent-up anxiety. Reflect on the experience, what you learned, and how it has shaped your approach to safety.
Grounding Techniques: Practice mindfulness or grounding exercises to ease moments of panic or fear when thinking about similar situations. Techniques like deep breathing or the 5-4-3-2-1 method (naming things you can see, hear, touch, smell, and taste) can help re-center your mind.
Positive Visualization: Imagine positive outcomes and scenarios where you’re prepared and in control. Visualization can help reduce fear by retraining your mind to focus on solutions instead of worst-case scenarios.
Education and Safety Plans: Equip yourself and your children with safety protocols. Practice “what to do if we get separated” scenarios in a calm, fun way to build confidence and preparedness.
Self-Compassion: Remind yourself that moments of fear or mistakes are part of parenting. Acknowledge your efforts and focus on the strength you’ve shown since the incident.
Trauma often lingers because it feels unresolved, but by actively engaging with these emotions and empowering yourself with tools, you can transform fear into confidence and clarity moving forward.
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